Nerd Church - 50+ Things It's OK To Feel When You're Grieving

Grief doesn't care about 'should.'

Grief will feel how grief feels.

I lost my grandfather this week.

And I was tempted to not write a Nerd Church post at all.

But, as you can see, I decided to.




Part of the reason I decided to is entirely selfish: blogging is cheaper than therapy. I've said it enough times and I still mean it.

The other reason is selfless: if I can help someone else by talking about grief, then I'm gonna f**king talk about grief.




So if anyone else has lost someone recently, then what you feel - whatever you feel - is valid.

That doesn't necessarily make it logical.

For example:

Feeling Guilty + Did The Best You Could = Illogical.

You still feel it - LET yourself feel it. But also remind yourself when things don't make sense.





So here are more than 50 things that's it's perfectly fine to feel when you've lost someone:

1. Sad - a bit of an obvious one, but worth repeating
2. Happy
3. Angry
4. Like your heart's been torn out
5. Like the tears will never end
6. Regret
7. Selfish
8. Like you wanna avoid everything
9. Like you wanna organise everything
10. Like you wanna turn back time
11. Like you wanna travel to the future, where the pain's already passed
12. Like you never want this pain to pass
13. Ungrateful
14. Like you're being ungrateful
15. Empty
16. Full up
17. Like the world's light has gone out
18. Like you wanna put the world's light out
19. Shocked
20. Unsurprised
21. Resigned
22. Alone
23. Crowded
24. Hopeless
25. Lost
26. Grateful
27. Thankful
28. Happy, Sleepy, Grumpy, Sneezy, Bashful, Dopey, and Doc
29. Like you've gotta find some reason to smile
30. Like everything is a reason to smile
31. Like there's never gonna be a reason to smile again
32. Like you shouldn't smile
33. Like you're a bad person for smiling
34. Like they would've wanted you to smile
35. Love
36. Pain
37. Desolation
38. Like it's not fair
39. Like the world should stop
40. Like the world shouldn't stop
41. Like your tears are knives
42. Like your tears are soothing
43. Confused
44. Crystal clear
45. Devastated
46. Exhausted
47. Like you wanna escape
48. Like you wanna face it
49. Like you wish it was easier
50. Like you wish it was harder
51. ANY GODDAMN THING THAT YOU FEEL, IS OK

If you're struggling with ANYTHING emotionally or mentally my dear nerdlets, PLEASE get help.

There are also suicide prevention and/or mental health helplines you can use.

And, if you're in the UK or ROI, you can talk to The Samaritans at any time.

Anything to add to the list?

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Last updated: 24 Dec 2018